Trying to work around the crashing-bug where you move a file from one Thunar window to another and the application crashes. So I tried doing it from thunar tab to thunar tab instead. This time it didn't crash, instead it just wouldn't let me to the action. The solution is to use a terminal window and copy them with commands. Incidentally, thunar doesn't refresh after an operation from the terminal. You have to manually refresh the windows.
What Thunar version? I'm unable to reproduce this on 1.6.5. This appears related to https://bugzilla.xfce.org/show_bug.cgi?id=9821
Please reopen if you can provide steps to reproduce. As for the reload issue, see bug #11008.